When clients feel stuck or overwhelmed, I ask them to tell me how they want to feel.
I very rarely get an answer that does not sound like this:
'I no longer want to feel stuck/tired/drained/anxious'.etc.
When I get that response, I ask the question again. What do you want to feel? I can see, for some, that feels uncomfortable. It takes a moment to step out of their current emotions and think about what is possible.
When we get stuck in a negative emotional state, it can be hard to think of anything but that feeling. We become stuck in our story, making it difficult to imagine feeling any other way.
The challenge is that your reticular activating system (RAS), a collection of neurons in the brain, is always looking to reinforce what you put your focus on. The RAS filters the world on the parameters you give it, and your beliefs shape those parameters.
In other words, you get more of what you focus on because your brain is wired to filter for that result.
So, tell yourself what you do want to feel to help the brain to filter for that result.
But if you are feeling stuck, how do you switch emotions to get clear on what you want?
Breaking your current emotional state is helpful before you start to think about the future feeling you want. Hypnosis helps with this as you change your state rapidly and step into those future feelings more easily.
However, there are other ways to help break your emotional state for yourself, for example, upbeat music, physical exercise, and laughter.
If you want to explore how you do want to feel but are currently feeling stuck, try the following.
- Blast some upbeat music for 5mins.
- Even better, jump around to that music.
- Or laugh out loud (it doesn’t matter if it’s a false laugh).
Yes, I get you probably do not feel like doing this but do it anyway. Then ask yourself the question. How do I want to feel? Write it down and put it where you will see it daily.
If you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed and need support to help you change. Book a free telephone consultation to see how hypnotherapy can help you.